Sylvia 48 years oldmature woman. One day she woke up in the morning with a firm resolve: "Enough. That's what we came to. We need a divorce. " She believed that her husband was too busy with his own life, and their relationship had long since come to naught.
Sylvia realized that she spent most of her life surrounded by the care and attention of others, while these people were solely engaged in their own lives. She saw no return on their part.
The heroine of our article had a feeling thather whole life passed in some kind of fog, which suddenly disappeared.How did she not notice such simple things before? Suddenly, she came to understand many things that she had never realized before.
Everything changed in a moment, Sylvia realized that she needed to focus on her own life andstart taking more care of yourself.
She decided to reconsider her life and prioritize, leaving in the past what did not bring any result.
The brain of a mature woman. What is changing in it?
Brainmature womanafter 40 years like a time bomb. After all
As you know, the human brain is not static, throughout our life it is changing and evolving.In this sense, the woman's brain is more dynamic than the male. In men, changes in neurons are not so noticeable.
Female essence can be compared with the weather - it is changeable and difficult to predict. If even changes take place during the week, what can you say about a lifetime?. A key role in this is played by hormonal changes.
Being a woman over 40 is fine.
Like Sylvia, in the lives of thousands of women, sooner or later the moment comes whenThe need to revise the life values becomes obvious.
They begin to wonder who they are, what the circumstances of life have brought them to where they are now. There are many questions and ideas, a desire for change.
The main dilemma that must be resolved -how to live, performing their daily duties, but not sacrificing their interests and desires..
How to make relationships with others harmonious, so that there is always time for their own lives. How did it happen that once this harmony was broken, as a result of which you moved away from yourself?
At this age, we often want to wipe the dust off the screen, so that life blossoms again before us in all its color.We feel active, we feel a surge of energy and a keen desire to reorganize our life, clearing it of the factors that violate our inner harmony.
At a certain age, the perception of reality changes,we understand that many problems are solved more easily than we thought before. With age, we begin to feel stronger and more self-confident.
As Oprah Winfrey once said:.
Surprisingly, despite my age, my life does not stand still, I continue to develop, look for something new and expand my own boundaries of perception of the world. When I was 20, I thought that one day the time would come and I, as if by magic, would feel grown-up. It seemed to me that somewhere in 35 my personality would become "mature and mature."
It's funny, but over the years this figure continued to shift forward. When I was 40, and the so-called middle age came, this final point of adulthood was still a distant beacon on the horizon. I knew that this was far from final.
Now I understand that such a day will never come, because every day that has been lived adds something new to us, and our development does not stop for a minute. We are still on the path to the image that is our ideal..
What happens to the woman's brain?
The hormonal background plays an important role in shaping our reality.Hormones influence our perception of the world, the assimilation of new experiences, our values and desires.
At a certain age, the hormonal background and its effect on the brain stabilize. This allows us to more clearly perceive life and facilitates the prioritization of priorities.
The level of estrogen, which constantly fluctuates, affects our emotions, interaction with others, the ability to empathy. We make decisions that contribute to understanding others and their feelings.
In other words, estrogens affect not only our mood, but also our thoughts, needs, sexuality, behavior and well-being.
According to the neuropsychiatrist Loann Brisendin,this determines our unique abilities for deep friendship, flexibility of thinking, determining the emotional state of a person by expressing his face and tone of voice, the peaceful resolution of conflicts.
As a rule, after 45 years the woman's hormonal background stabilizes.It is at this point most often that we begin to need a fair attitude to ourselves.
Our biological clock "tunes" the brain to a new wave: taking care of yourself and attentive attitude to your needs.
Perhaps earlier, for some reason, you did not pay enough attention to personal growth and self-knowledge. If so, then at this age there comes a time when you can not put off these goals for tomorrow.
As in the case of Sylvia, the brain ceases to generate impulses that cause changes in the hormonal background, stimulating the production of estrogens or progesterone. As a result, the woman soon stops menstruating.
Emotional background of a woman is stabilizing, as a result of which the veil disappears from our eyes, which prevents us from perceiving reality objectively. The things that used to cause our anger or resentment do not disturb our peace of mind.
Thus, the work of the amygdala and limbic system, responsible for the processing of our emotions, as well as prefrontal The cerebral cortex, whose function is to analyze and justify the decisions we make, becomes more coordinated.
As a result, it becomes easier for us to control our emotions and moods, as well as anticipate the reaction to various events.
Stimulation of these areas of the brain becomes more stable and proportional. As a result, we begin to think more clearly, we become more balanced, it becomes more difficult for us to lose our temper.
Also, the production of hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin is regulated. As a result, one's own inner world and contact with oneself take priority.
In other words, the woman's perception of her own inner world is undergoing significant changes. It opens up a great, previously unknown potential. There comes a sense of emotional freedom, inner balance, the need to revise life priorities. As a result, her life becomes more full and harmonious.
The sources used are: "The Female Brain" by Loann Brisendin and "The Physiology of Behavior" by Neil Carlson.
Illustrations are provided by Claudia Tremblay, Mariana Kalachova and others.